At Hawaii Surrogacy, we have the privilege of sitting down with many of our Intended Parents (IPs) as they move through the deeply personal journey of building their families. Throughout this process, a wide range of emotions emerges—some expected, others surprising—as parents become more immersed in their path to parenthood.
One moment that often stirs unexpected feelings is when IPs begin creating their matching profile, especially the heartfelt letter to their future surrogate. What seems like a simple task can open emotional floodgates—bringing up overwhelm, vulnerability, and even a sense of emotional paralysis. How does one put into words the magnitude of hope, longing, and gratitude they feel?
Emotional discomfort can also arise in conversations with close friends or loved ones. Well-intentioned comments about infertility or alternative family-building methods may seem harmless but can land as subtly painful reminders of the journey’s complexity. These interactions often reveal deeper layers of vulnerability that may not have been fully recognized.
For IPs living with long-term medical conditions or those in same-sex relationships, the possibility of needing help to build a family is often a long-standing reality. Even so, when that need becomes present and tangible, it can stir grief, questions of identity, and the weight of societal narratives around parenthood. There’s a profound emotional reckoning that can happen—one where resilience, grief, hope, and worthiness coexist.
So how can Intended Parents protect their emotional well-being while navigating this sensitive landscape?
The truth is, those closest to us often don’t fully understand what surrogacy entails—emotionally or logistically. Their questions or assumptions, though well-meaning, can unintentionally miss the mark. That’s why it’s so important to cultivate emotional boundaries, share only what feels safe, and seek support from those who can listen without judgment or agenda.
Metabolizing tough emotions—acknowledging them, allowing them, and learning from them—takes intention and practice. Here are a few ways to begin:
We’re continually moved by the emotional courage our Intended Parents show in facing these challenges with honesty and heart. Surrogacy isn’t just a medical or logistical process—it’s a deeply human one, filled with reflection, growth, and healing.
To anyone navigating this journey: It’s okay to feel all of it. Emotions aren’t obstacles; they are part of the path. And the more we make room for them, the more empowered we are to move forward with compassion, clarity, and strength.
As the only full-service agency in Hawaii exclusively dedicated to surrogacy, we have more than a decade of local experience helping Intended Parents fulfill their lifelong desire to create a family.
Do you enjoy being pregnant? Do you want to give the incredible gift of helping someone complete their family? We want you be part of an awesome journey and join us at Hawaii Surrogacy!
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